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The consequences of divorce even after remarriage
Reproductive Potential Varies As a Function of Others in the Picture!?
Male Dominance Reflects Prostitution and is a Crime Against Woman
Male Dominance Does not Contribute to Ultimate Success
In the Kingdom of God even Guppies Hate to be Harassed
Know about Prevention of Coercive Sex, Rape, Date Rape & Acquaintance Rape
The Birth Control Pill Affects Woman's Choice for a Mate and Causes Relationship Problems
Birth Control Pill Reduces Attractiveness and Affects Choice of Partner
Woman with Higher Estradiol Levels Cheat: Extra Marital Affairs for Better Mate? Have Larger Breasts? Low waist to hip ratio?
Video on why partners cheat: Adultery / Infidelity
When does a woman share her phone number with a stranger?
Menopause: "Who" is the Real Cause?
Less desirable gifts are reacted to more negatively by males than by females, who react more negatively to the more desirable (60 s)
It can be our expectations that shape our decisions about liking and disliking (60 s)
Physical Shape of a Man or a Woman can be an Evolutionary Signal for Mate Choice in Good Times and Bad Times
Spending more time with ones mate increases reproductive potential: A lesson from Butterflies
Male's Reproductive Life is Extended by up to 20% Just by Living with a Female
Attachment and cuddling hormone, oxytocin, may improve memory for faces or social cues (video)
Quiet males are more advantageous for fatherhood!?
The bond between father and child
Worst ways of breaking up?
How to Combat Heartbreaks
Sexual Dysfunction: Organic or Psychogenic?
Low and High Testosterone in Males: Parenting and Mating Behavior
Minister Kiumars' Comment on Commitment
Minister Kiumars' Comment on Sex, Aggression and Self-Deception
*******Minister Dr. Kiu Lalezar's Bel Air Relationship Advise Examiner Short Articles********
Decision to date and marry; mother fear, younger man, drugs & alcohol
What other issues to address before marrying?
Relationship conflict resolution
Relationship jealousy connected to complementarity and not compatibility
Personal qualities affect relationships positively and negatively
Areas of dissatisfaction in relationships can improve by changing one area
Quitting substances and spending time together increases relationship satisfaction
What to look for when seeking relationship counseling
Prevention of relationship conflict, abuse and divorce
Divorce same as dissolution of marriage
Annulment is the same as nullity of marriage
Summary Dissolution of Marriage
Child custody and visitation; the relationship continues
Relationship continues, custody is given based on the best interest of the child
At Q's Ministry objective pastoral personal counseling assessments to help the
couple (dating, engaged, (pre)marital, or divorcing with sensitive matters such as:
a) Pre-marital or marital relationships,
b) Decision to marry or improve relationship prior to marriage,
c) Relationship conflict resolution,
d) Partner compatibility information & more..
1) Shows Key Relationship Issues
2) Shows Similarities and Differences Between Two People
3) Shows How Personal Qualities Affect the Relationship
4) Shows Areas that are Causing Dissatisfaction
5) Shows the Areas which if improved would lead to Relationship Satisfaction
6) Is an Objective Guide for providing Pastoral Counseling
7) Can Prevent Divorce, Conflicts & Spousal Abuse
8) Can serve as supporting evidence for courts & family law
If not married and found that you as the couple are ready, interfaith or within faith
Marriage services are provided.
Pastoral counseling is provided with or without the above assessment, as seen
to be necessary or not.
If you need help or more information about the assessments, reports and
pastoral counseling services please contact us.
The assessments are also offered in person or on the net, at
your home, office or if on vacation.
Pre-wedding / post-wedding world renowned counseling
Being married, or living with someone significant, in mid-life reduces the risk
of developing late-life Alzheimer's Disease and Dementia by 50% in
comparison to those who live alone.
In married couples, following betrayal, betrayor's appeasement can lead to the betrayed forgiving and resolution. PEGGY A. HANNON, CARYL E.
RUSBULT, ELI J. FINKEL, and MADOKA KAMASHIRO (2010, May 2010). In the wake of betrayal: Amends, forgiveness, and the resolution of betrayal.
Both male and female residents in training are at high risk for sexual and relationship problems; see Ferguson, G. G. et al. (2008, September). The
sexual Lives of Residents and Fellows in Graduate Medical Education Programs: A Single Institution Survey. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 5(12), 2756-
Mothers and fathers disagree about the proportion of time they spend with their young children. Fathers report spending more time in activities with
the children; see Mikelson, K. S. (2008). He Said, She Said: Comparing Mother and Father Reports of Father Involvement. Journal of Marriage and
Family, 70(3), 613-624.
Marital satisfaction increases in middle age, which is related to children leaving home and couples spending quality time together; see Gorchoff, S.
M., John, O. P., Helson, R. (2008). Contextualizing Change in Marital Satisfaction During Middle Age: An 18-Year Longitudinal Study. Psych Science, 19
Given life background differences, do step fathers and cohabiting partners provide better parenting than biological fathers? see Berger, L. M.,
Carlson, M. J., Bzostek, S. H., Osborne, C. (2008). Parenting Practices of Resident Fathers: The Role of Marital and Biological Ties. Journal of Marriage
and Family, 70(3), 625-639.
When mothers manage the money, children's food insecurity reduces-- compared to when fathers and mothers manage the money together and when
fathers do it. Kenney, C. T. (2008). Father Doesn't Know Best? Parents' Control of Money and Children's Food Insecurity. Journal of Marriage and
Family, 70(3), 654-669.
Insecure emotions in children are related to marital conflict and father's depression; see Kouros, C. D., Merrilees, C. E., Cummings, E. M. (2008).
Marital Conflict and Children's Emotional Security in the Context of Parental Depression. Journal of Marriage and Family, 70(3), 684-697.
Romance among male adolescents is related to instability in the family system and number of relationships they had before; see Cavanagh, S. E.,
Crissey, S. R., Raley, R. K. (2008). Family Structure History and Adolescent Romance. Journal of Marriage and Family, 70(3), 698-714.
Early in pregnancy low sexuality is related to impaired body image; and after child birth, elimination symptoms are related to poor sexuality past 6
months after child birth; see Pauls RN, Occhino JA, and Dryfhout VL. Effects of pregnancy on female sexual function and body image: A prospective
study. J Sex Med 2008;5:1915–1922.
Among couples who can not have children and tried for -/+24 months, the female are depressed and have sexual dysfunctions- which is related to
male partner's sexual function; see Nelson CJ, Shindel AW, Naughton CK, Ohebshalom M, and Mulhall JP. Prevalence and predictors of sexual
problems, relationship stress, and depression in female partners of infertile couples. J Sex Med 2008;5:1907–1914.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is also related to relationship problems. ED can improve with effective counseling for couples; see McCabe MP.
Relationship factors in the development and maintenance of ED: Implications for treatment effectiveness. J Sex Med 2008;5:1795–1804.
Complex cognition is not necessary for reciprocation of affection, caressing and caring on a short-term or long-term basis; see Schino, G., Giuseppe,
F. D. and Visalberghi, E. (2008). Ethology, 115(1), 70-76.
Childhood cohabitation can inhibit of later sexual interest both in animals and in humans; called the 'Westermarck effect', "brother–sister" incest is
prevented in this way. Social familiarity can inhibit reproductive behavior even after being separated or when isolated. With new partners, on the
other hand, there is more aggression and low affiliation like behavior-- but high reproductivity between them; because there might had been previous
kinship between the new partner and childhood cohabitant with whom there is reproductive inhibition. The less friendly interaction (anger) can inhibit
the inhibition of reproductive behavior (which excites reproductive behavior) that was due to the mere perception of familiarity between the new
partner and old childhood cohabitant, even when there was no familiarity; see Busquet, N., Nizerolle, C. L. and Feron, C. (2008). What Triggers
Reproductive Life? Effects of Adolescent Cohabitation, Social Novelty and Aggression in a Monogamous Mouse. Ethology, 115(1), 87-95.
Oxytocin in nucleus accumbens, indusium griseum, central-medial-cortical amygdaloid nuclei, bed nucleus of the stria terminalis, and CA1
hippocampal subfield may cause monagomy, sociality, alloparenting behavior, and attachments- but in the piriform cortex oxytocin may cause
infidelity. Theodosis Kalamatianos, Christopher G. Faulkes, Maria K. Oosthuizen, Ravi Poorun, Nigel C. Bennett, Clive W. Coen (2009, Dec 8).
Telencephalic binding sites for oxytocin and social organization: A comparative study of eusocial naked mole-rats and solitary cape mole-rats. Journal
of Comparative Neurology, 518(10), 1792-1813.
The benefits of being thoughtful can result in gratitude and feeling indebted, both can increase connectedness and satisfaction in the giver and the
receiver in the relationship. Men may experience various emotions in response to receiving. And being indebted may increase relationship
engagement and gratitude can maintain the relationship. SARA B. ALGOE, SHELLY L. GABLE, and NATALYA C. MAISEL (2010, May 21). It's the little
things: Everyday gratitude as a booster shot for romantic relationships. Personal Relationships, 17(2), 217-233.
There is distress when ones attachments to parents change to individuals beyond the family. In those whose social network entails the family, as
opposed to peers, the distress is higher when attachment is avoided. Testing the function of attachment hierarchies during emerging adulthood.
Personal Relationships, 17(2), 201-216.
High emotion self-disclosure increases positive affect that increases feeling closer to ones own partner and other couples. Slatcher, R. B. (2010, May
21). When Harry and Sally met Dick and Jane: Creating closeness between couples. Personal Relationships, 17(2), 279-297.
Those who receive premarital prevention and therapy are significantly better in the long-term, after the wedding, compared to 79% of couples who do
not receive the interventions. The short term effects include better interpersonal skills and quality of the relationship. Carroll, J. S. and Doherty, W. J.
(2003). Evaluating the Effectiveness of Premarital Prevention Programs: A Meta-Analytic Review of Outcome Research. Family Relations, 52: 105–118.