at Q's Ministry
1) 7:00-8:30PM, Wednesday, August 22, 2007 @ Westwood, Ca.
"Two Way Relations: Personality Comparison Between Couples"
After a 20 minutes talk, refreshments, discussion and meeting someone special will follow. No Fee.
2) 6:30 PM, September 19, 2007 @ Westwood, Ca. Wednesday, brief report on Male - Female Differences in "Kissing". The talk will be followed by completing
a profile form and meeting singles, Fee: $10, Suggested gift.
3) 6:00-8:00 PM, October 10, 2007 (Wednesday) @ Westwood, Ca. A brief talk on "LOVE". The talk will be followed by 5 minutes of speed dating, viewing
profiles, and completing a profile form, Fee: Suggested donation $10
4) 6:00-8:00PM, Wednesday, October 17, 2007 @ Westwood, Ca. A brief talk on Cognition, Emotion & Dating. The talk will be followed by 5 minutes of speed
dating, viewing profiles, and completing a profile form.
5) 6:00-8:00PM, Wednesday, October 24, 2007 @ Westwood, Ca. A brief talk on Cognition & Love: Intelligence, Finances & Looks. The talk will be followed
by 5 minutes of speed dating, viewing profiles, and completing a profile form.
6) 6:30-9:00PM, Wednesday, November 7, 2007 @ Westwood, Ca. A brief talk on Happiness: Meaningful Relationships or Money. The talk will be followed by
5 minutes of speed dating, viewing profiles, and completing a profile form.
7) 5:00-7:00 PM, Sunday, January 4, 2009 @ Westwood, Ca. (Coference room at 16th floor). The topic of our talk was on "Love again and again." There was a
surprise guest as entertainment who bought his CDs to play romance music. That was followed by two times 5 minutes speed dating, viewing profiles, and
completing a profile form- confidentially. Fee: Free / Donation; Parking: There is free street parking around / behind the building. Please plan to arrive 5-10
minutes earlier! Refreshments was served. All ages above 21.
|Links for Congregants and Parishioners. For Clarification please contact us.
Books on Love
Philosophy of Love
Coping Skills Everyday Living Skills Improve Dating Skills Reduce Social Isolation
Want a Meaningful Relationship?
Please join us.
The topic of our talk will be on: "Why I Do Not Find Him / Her to be the "Right" Person to Marry?
Why Can't I Find the Right Person to Marry?" A Lesson From Past Relationships."
Where: 10940 Wilshire Blvd., Suite 1600 (16th floor)
Los Angeles, CA. 90024 (at Westwood)
Fee: Free / Donation
Parking: There is free street parking around / behind the building. Please plan to arrive 5-10
Phone: Call (310) 443 4168 for our next meeting
Please let your friends know or invite them to go along with you. All ages above 18 are welcome!
(May 17, 2010)
From Criteria to Date to Criteria to Marry
By Kiumars Lalezarzadeh, Ph.D.
P.O. Box 241616 Los Angeles CA 90024
(310) 395 1250
Who would have every thought that dating to marry has become a game of weighing the physical, the mental and the money. There
are three criteria that singles between the ages of 34 to 46 may set for themselves influencing their expectations, likes, and dislikes
during dating and once making the decision to marry. The three areas are intelligence, physical look and finances.
Once taught in school that IQ measured intelligence, then learned it was quackery along side of phrenology, Ethiopian Jewish scored
the highest, and then the fMRI localizing functions of mental capacity. None serves as the criteria one sets for an intelligent man or
woman to date and marry. One couldn’t take a date on an fMRI test, no real test anyway. What really is wanted is a sense of
understanding, an ability to listen, seemingly compassionate, or empathizing. An fMRI of empathizing mental capacity or integrity,
would that suffice to weigh intelligence. Even that was a test of sympathizing capacity not empathize, it was a mislabeled fMRI,
confusion in words- perceiving our date, our partner to be condescending, not genuinely compassionate. The ability to adapt is really
what people are weighing in about intelligence.
Younger man or woman, ratio between hip and waste, chest and hip, upper lip to chin, big or small eyes, curvy or petite, tall, medium
or short are all displays of some primordial fear embedded in the criteria we set. Is the person going to be more attractive to someone
else or someone more attractive that we could miss up on in the future. No, it really comes to that simple fact, feelings of security that
the attractiveness will not make him or her cheat, be polygamous or polyandrous. After all anyone can be made to look attractive in
less than 6 months. Therefore, Monogamy is really what people are weighing in about attractiveness.
In this day and age, when faced with difficulty in weighing the criteria for physical looks and mental intelligence, many are looking into
financial capacity. Now with the economy up and down, the financial criteria has caused further confusion. Once meaningful
relationships were valued when financially secure, now with the fear of economy and natural resources at danger, the weight placed
on dating and marrying rich or poor seem to be in shambles. Ability to cooperate to jointly make it economically may be what people
are looking for.
Copyright. Kiumars Lalezarzadeh, Ph.D. Q's Ministry P.O. Box 241661 Los Angeles CA 90024
Women were observed interacting with strange men under low or high influence of alcohol; women who had consumed more alcohol, as opposed to
less, showed more 'open body position', talking, standing, walking and frowning- giving the signal of intoxication or interest in sex. Frowning also
signals discomfort and an 'animated' mixed message. Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, as opposed to non-victims, showed less head movements
and nodding and more animated frowns- that may signal both anxiety - discomfort - vulnerability and sexual interest, increasing the risk for sexual
assault. see Parks, K. A., Hequembourg, A. L., and Dearing, R. L. (2008). Women's Social Behavior When Meeting New Men: The Influence of Alcohol
and Childhood Sexual Abuse. Psych of Woman Quarterly, 32(2), 145-158.
One is more accurate in seeing and predicting males interest in females than female's interest in males during speed dating. see
Place, S.S., Todd, P. M., Penke, L. M. and Asendorpf, J. B. (2008). The Ability to Judge the Romantic Interest of Others. Psych Science,